At age 21 I got married, with stars in my eyes.
I was excited about the whole idea of marriage and commitment.
I was finally going to have the fulfillment of all my romantic dreams.
From the fancy wedding dress to the white picket fence.
I was really looking forward to a life of love and kisses, with great sex.
I was ready and willing to be a perfect wife and homemaker.
And Lord knows I tried.
But I certainly wasn’t perfect…and neither was he.
So, it didn’t work.
We were not happy with each other.
We didn’t know how to resolve issues, so we just swept them under the rug.
They built up to a big mess, that we tried to avoid.
The kisses and sex were lukewarm at best.
We tried therapists, self-help books, friend’s advice, everything we could think of.
After 20 years we gave up.
I was a single Mom for 4 years.
I was committed to figuring out how to “do love right.”
I did personal growth programs. Read lots more self-help books.
Money issues are the #1 conflict in relationships!
What would be different if you had a secure financial future?
What would life be like if you made the income you want?
It’s hard to imagine financial security, when paying your bills each month is a struggle. Or when it's time to pay bills you just get angry, worried and shut down, or put everything on autopay.
Maybe you have no idea where your money is going each month? Maybe you just hope there is enough money in the bank account to cover the bills?
I get it. It can feel easier to live paycheck to paycheck than have to look back and see what you spent your money on. Or look forward and see the bills you can’t pay and all the stuff you can’t do.
Reality is, if you don’t have a positive association with money - no amount of money will solve your problems. I'm sure you've heard of lottery winners going bankrupt! Money is not the answer! You need a positive Money Mindset!
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You've probably heard the saying..."Insanity is doing the same things but expecting different results."
Well how are you doing in your health, wealth, and relationships?
Are you being insane?
Are you expecting different results, but doing the same things with your family, friends, co-workers, neighbors, etc?
How about with your Money and your Health?
Do you set new goals every year...but fail to achieve them?
And most important, how's your relationship with Yourself!
Do you make negative comments toward yourself?
Maybe you say, "I'm never going to lose weight!"
Or, I'm never going to get out of debt!"
Or maybe, you think, "l'll never find a good man."
These types of negative judgements will produce a negative result.
Maybe you don't know what to do differently?
Are you willing to look at some new options?
Are you ready for a new Mindset?
For just 90 minutes of your time and $12, you can gain some great NEW ideas about ways to break out of your old insane patterns.
Procrastination is SO easy, especially if you combine it with finding other stuff to keep yourself busy, rather than doing the important (but tough) stuff you need to do. That way you can delude yourself into thinking your time was well spent.
Sometimes I fib to myself and say, "I'm too busy to get it all done." Or, at my worst, I find ways to blame it on Dixon (in my mind). Thank goodness, I rarely say it aloud!
Do you struggle with procrastination? Do you set goals...but rarely get them done? Do you feel overwhelmed and exhausted?
My sister, Jane, once told me: "It's not what you've done that makes you tired, its what's left undone." As I observe myself, I've found that to be true.
I've also learned that getting aligned with myself is a key to accomplishing goals. Most of us have conscious reasons we want to achieve our goals...AND...some subconscious reasons we don't want to.
For example, an overweight woman may consciously want to lose weight. But unconsciously she may...
I had to laugh when I read the following brief article from The Gottman Institute...but it's got an important point!
“Escape (the Piña Colada Song)” by Rupert Holmes is a beachy, karaoke favorite about a husband and wife who discover they were planning to cheat on each other.
A less catchy title for the song could be, “We Never Talked to Each Other Then Assumed Infidelity Was the Only Solution Rather Than Changing Our Communication Strategy (the Piña Colada Song)”
Everyone’s sense of relief is shared as the couple in the song updates their “Love Maps” and laugh about how they basically “Catfished” each other.
Their “same old dull routine” didn’t include room for champagne, piña coladas, or midnight lovemaking. Their relationship was, according to the lyrics, “a worn-out recording of a favorite song.”
How do you re-heat things in your relationship before...
I believe the world needs YOU!
The unique person you are.
Your history, your story, your strengths (and struggles), your personality, and your heart are necessary to build a better world.
I'm sure you've heard it said that no two snowflakes are alike. It's true!
There are billions of snowflakes, each is unique, and together they create a winter wonderland.
Think of a bouquet of a dozen roses.
If they are plastic roses, they all look the same...boring!
But when they are REAL roses, each one is slightly different.
It's the differences that make the bouquet interesting and attractive!
Mother nature creates an abundance of variety in everything she does.
No duplicates, no repeats. It's the diversity that captures our mind and heart.
Quit trying to be like anyone else, just to fit in!
Think of Barbara Streisand....specifically, her nose.
She was told many times that she should have it "fixed."
But instead of changing, so that she...
Like an iceberg, it's important to be aware of what's "below the surface."
If you have been repeatedly attracting the WRONG kind of men, even though you try to avoid them, then there is something in your subconscious that is limiting your success.
Usually it is a PATTERN that you learned when you were younger.
As a teenager, in your desire to find love, you may have gotten in with the wrong crowd?
Perhaps you observed your father being disrespectful, or even abusive toward your mother?
Maybe your first husband seemed like a great guy, but had a mean streak?
Has it started to seem like all men are jerks?
Or the nice ones are either gay or married?
I have some GOOD News and some BAD News.
First, the Good News...I can absolutely guarantee you there are MANY good men out there (not just gay or married, LOL)!
And, the Bad News....you are going to keep attracting the WRONG men, because the pattern is running in your subconscious.
It's wired into your brain, just like...
Frankly, I find the above quote really annoying, because, of course, everybody would love themselves...if they knew how!
So, why don't we know how?
Because, early in your childhood you received numerous messages that you weren't okay; not perfect enough, or well behaved, or good looking, or not smart, or whatever.
Back then you were too young to filter out the messages you received.
You didn't realize that your parents criticized you because they didn't feel perfect enough either. They didn't really love themselves enough, so they tried to fix it by "fixing" you.
But, it didn't work....you just felt imperfect, and therefore not lovable.
So now what are you supposed to do?
Go into therapy? Good grief, it takes forever, and costs a mint!
Speaking of money, a LOT of people are spending a LOT of money on cosmetic surgery, to try to be more lovable.
I even heard of a woman who is having her second toes shortened, so her feet will be more perfect. Yikes!
There's a lot of...